28 March 2021

Support and Dedication

As writers, we all know how important it is to receive support from those around us. And that is why I am dedicating this day's blog to my wife Kiti.

So here's what has been going on. As some of us may have already found out, Old Age can be a Bitch, especially when she comes for you with a vengeance as body parts start wearing out. You see, for part of December through part of February, I had hip pains and upper thigh pains down to my knees.

X-rays and an MRI showed bone degeneration and collapsed disks pinching the nerve bundle. Surgery fused L-3, L-4 and L-5, grafted the appropriate bone and built a metal cage to stabilize it all.

It took incision cuts fore and aft to get there. Nor, with my limited movement during healing, I can't even get out of bed by myself to go to the bathroom without the assistance of my wife. Currently, that is an every two to four hour test of devotion in each twenty-four hour period.

And when I think about it, she was already here as my First Reader, writers conference guide, secretary, best friend, emotional supporter and all those other things, besides being my wife. And, she did this while working as a federal credit union Vice-President and raising four kids, two hers and two mine, plus eleven grandchildren.

Anyway, I think you can see why I'm dedicating this blog to her. And, I hope you have someone this supportive in your life.


  1. Awwwww! So good to know you have each other!

  2. I did. I wish she was still here. You both take care and may the healing speed up.

  3. Enjoyed this, RT. I too am one of those lucky folks who married above my station.

    Best to you both. Get well!

  4. R. T., I hope you continue to heal and get better. I can't imagine how Barb puts up with me, but thank God she does. I used to say getting old was easy and that coping with it was a bitch, but I no longer believe that. Like you, I've reached a point where lots of parts are breaking down and Barb keeps putting me back together...sort of. She's also my first reader, and improves lots of my stories. She's a much better writer than I am, but doesn't believe it.

  5. R.T., blessings and prayers to you and Kiti - for your healing, for her health, and for both of your well-being. Get well and come visit again some time!
    Yeah, old age is a bitch, but it often beats the alternative.

  6. I'm so glad you have someone to help you through this trying time. Everyone should have someone like that.

  7. In this big, bad, wonderful world, thank goodness you found Kiti.

  8. What a cool, gorgeous, and wonderful lady, companion, guide, and helpmeet.

    From your exploits, you've surely put your body through rigors that violated the warranty. Hang in there, man, and thanks to Kiti.

  9. Be careful, R.T. I broke my hip in October of 2019 but I didn't realize it until 16 days later, when it became more difficult to walk. I guess I have a high tolerance for pain. They replaced the hip & it's been O.K. ever since.

    My husband & I take excellent care of each other in most ways. But he is no help to me in matters of writing. That's the way it goes sometimes.

  10. Kevin, sorry we didn't get to meet her.

  11. Thanks to everyone for their comments and well wishes.

    Keep on keeping on.


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