Wedding Words

 

My word count is down this week. In my defense, I’ve been distracted by Independence Day, the World Cup, and celebrity weddings.

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My invitation to Taylor and Travis’s wedding is, I’m sure, lost in the pile of unsorted mail on the dining room table. If they’re reading this, I’d like to publicly apologize for missing the fete. I’m glad it went off without me. I’ve been by Crate and Barrel to buy a gift, but I couldn’t find Kelce or Swift listed in their registry.

In truth, the celebrity wedding I’ve been thinking about was Dua Lipa marrying Callum Turner. She sings. He acts. I confess that I am unfamiliar with either artist’s oeuvre or even their career highlights. What caught my attention was a story describing how they met.

I clicked on a Huffington Post article about the newlywed couple. (It’s one of things I’m prone to do when avoiding work.) In addition to details about their splashy multi-day Italian wedding festival, the story related their first encounter. Turner reports that the pair were seated next to one another at a mutual friend’s birthday dinner. They discovered they were both reading the same book. They had both, in fact, just finished the first chapter.

“So we’re on the same page,” Turner claims to have said to his future wife.

A good line nestled in a charming story—this meet cute could kick off a movie on the Hallmark Channel. (In my fantasy version, they bonded over my book. In truth, the pair were both reading Trust, by Hernán Díaz.)

The HuffPost article went on to discuss the role of reading generally in dating profiles. Reading as a social cue for potential partners is not limited to Turner and Lipa. On a dating profile, when one is seeking a possible connection with similar interests, emotional maturity, and a splash of intelligence, the books people choose may provide some of the best evidence.  The idea—what you read says a lot about you—may not be a startling psychological insight. But it was good to see that reading played an important role in a social media culture. The article felt less like celebrity trivia and more like a validation of life choices.

Apparently, it is not just what people read. The habit of reading is also attractive. As generations become defined by shorter attention spans, the notion that a person can unplug from devices and focus their attention on a three-hundred-page book signals that this potential mate possesses patience and curiosity; quiet markers of desirable traits in a serious relationship. In short, reading can make you hot.

As I mentioned earlier, by reading the piece, I learned that Dua and Callum got hitched. Congratulations and best wishes. But the article’s real benefit to me was that it added to my growing realization of reading as a shared event. I spent most of my reading career thinking of it as a solitary activity. I retired to a quiet space to work through a book on my own. Writing, however, began to reshape my thinking. In his memoir On Writing, Stephen King observes that a character begins in the writer’s mind but is finished in the reader’s. When readers talk with me at book clubs about my stories, I hear the details they’ve filled in about my principal characters. They’ve sometimes taken them places I never imagined. Together, we’ve created something. These discussions helped me realize that readers and writers are participating not in two solitary activities but rather in a single communal experience. As I’ve grown, I view writing/reading less as monologue and more as conversation.

The HuffPost article develops this idea. Books spark dialogue and arouse our brains. They help bring people together. As readers and writers, we help build community. So read a story, then tell someone about it. You never know what might happen next.

The HuffPost article can be found here. The Latest 'Green Flag' For Modern Daters? Reading. | HuffPost Life

 

BSP: Black Cat Weekly ran my story, “An Alien Idea,” in the June 28th issue. My story, “Thou Shalt Knot,” appeared in Boots, BBQ, and Bloodshed, the SINC North Dallas anthology on July 1st. If anyone marries because of these stories, please let me know.

 

Until next time.