28 March 2013

A Piece Missing

by Eve Fisher

  • "I believe there are monsters born in the world to human parents.  Some you can see, misshapen and horrible...  And just as there are physical monsters, can there not be mental or psychic monsters born?  ...As a child may be born without an arm, so one may be born without kindness or the potential of conscience." ...  "A man who loses his arms in an accident has a great struggle to adjust himself to the lack, but one born without arms suffers only from people who find him strange. Having never had arms, he cannot miss them. To a monster the norm must seem monstrous, since everyone is normal to himself. To the inner monster it must be even more obscure, since he has no visible thing to compare with others. To a criminal, honesty is foolish. You must not forget that a monster is only a variation, and that to a monster the norm is monstrous.”           John Steinbeck, Chapter 8, "East of Eden"

This is a description of Cathy in Steinbeck's "East of Eden", which is imho one of the best portraits of a sociopath that's ever been written.  And it's easy (once you have experience) to recognize her from without (much of the time, but we've all been fooled) but, as he points out, what about from within?  Yes, we can figure out ways to recognize the problems, the missing pieces in others - but for us...  how can we tell?  Something is left out, and we will never know it until we're surrounded by people who have it.  And even when we recognize that we're missing something, we still might not "get it":  can a completely color-blind person really grasp Franz Marc's "Blue Horses"?  Can a completely deaf person really understand why I weep uncontrollably at "Un bel di"?

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Now years ago, when I first read "East of Eden", I knew that Cathy was a true portrait, and that there are moral monsters.  But I also realized that there must be a whole range of possibilities, from the truly monstrous to the relatively minor.  I came to believe that, just as almost no one is born physically perfect and flawless, so almost no one is born morally, spiritually perfect and flawless.  We are all born with at least one piece missing, and our only hope is that it isn't a big one, and it is just one, and if not, that there aren't too many missing pieces. And I started to look around me, wondering, what's missing from him?  From her?  From them?  And, eventually, from myself?

The most obvious thing to me missing from me is a sense of home, of place, of rootedness.  Now I don't know if this is a missing piece, or something that was burned out of me when I was a child. I was born in Karditsa, Greece, to an unmarried teenaged mother who hoped the father would marry her.  He was rich, she was poor, it was (then) a small town, it was the 1950's, and there was no way in God's sweet green earth that he would ever marry her.  Instead, after a year of negotiations, (in which I am sure some money changed hands...) my father took me down to Athens, where he put me in an orphanage.  Move #1.  Within six months, it had been arranged for me to be adopted to a Greek-American couple in Alexandria, Virginia, but even back in the 1950's adoptions took a while, so I was put in a foster home for the duration.  Move #2.  A year later, the formalities completed, I was put on a plane, by myself, in Athens, with a note and a charm against the evil eye pinned to my dress, and shipped over to my parents in Alexandria.  (Side note:  doesn't that sum up a paradigm shift in treating children between the 1950's and today?)  Move #3. My parents and I lived in Alexandria for three years, and then we moved to southern California.  Move #4. 

Now each time, I was moved from everything and everyone I'd ever known, and I'm not whining, but I'm sure that has to be at least part of the reasons I don't get attached to places.  Or perhaps I was born that way, and all those moves just added to it...   It wasn't that noticeable in the cities I've lived in, where most people are wanderers, and we all share in our own version of "the unbearable lightness of being."  I didn't even realize it until I moved first down South, and then out here to South Dakota, where people are rooted in the land, and it strikes them as a bit odd that I don't seem to miss any place I've ever been.  I tell them what is true:  I save my attachments for people.  And for books.  And for music.  I look at all the people around me, rooted in their homes, their farms, their ranches, who cannot even think of moving, and I cannot grasp it, because that's a piece I'm missing.

And here comes the other side of it.  I don't really care, other than as observation.  I'm perfectly happy traveling, moving, living here, living there...  Which I think is normal for abnormality.  I'm not sure we care about any piece we're missing, for a variety of reasons.  So what if people claim to have pleasures, or abilities, or visions that we will never have?  They might be lying.  They might be wrong.  They might be self-deluded.  And does it matter?  We've done just fine as we are.  Perhaps better than they are.  What does it matter?

Unless you're a writer, in which case, it's fascinating to think that each of us occupies our own worlds.  I'll never forget when I first grasped that what I call orange and you call blue may actually be the same color, and we'll never know it because we cannot truly express what we see.  Or hear, taste, feel, experience...  All we have is words, and words are assigned so young that we never ask, well, what do they describe?

Years ago, I taught a creative writing class at a community center, and the first exercise I did was to ask each person to write down the image they saw in their head when I said a word.  "Apple."  And then I had everyone read aloud the image.  Red apples, green apples, golden delicious, Apple logo, Apple Records, Boone's Farm Apple Wine (it was a long time ago), almost everyone had seen a different image.  And then we wonder why it's so hard to communicate what we want to say, whether in poetry or prose.  What if I said "disappointment"?  "Joy"?  "Beauty"?  "Desire"?  No wonder Flaubert used to roll around on the floor for three days in agony, looking for the right word.  But he had a piece missing, too…


  1. Eve: How true. Your words confirm what I have always thought. Not everyone sees the world in the same light. Cloudy, not so cloudy, clear, overcast. I once had a student who was diagnosed with Asperger's. Some students picked on him, but I always intervened. To be truthful, his sense of what was right and wrong resonated with me more than the other students. His sense of justice matched mine. As far as writing goes, the same thing applies. You don't connect with the reader? You're a failure. Two generations later? Wow! What a great, insightful author. None of us relate on the same level at all times. And that is why connecting with the reader is so difficult. By the way, what is your favorite apple? Your truly, Toe.

  2. Eve, this is a wonderfully thoughtful piece that evokes a one-word comment from me--WOW!

    PS-My favorite apple is one that's already baked into a double-crust pie with French vanilla ice cream perched on top of my piece.

  3. A fine post, Eve, and very thought-provoking. Without baring my soul, I can say that a piece that's missing for me, though it's a biggie for many, is fashion: I hardly ever notice what people wear, and I find the practice of "getting your colors done" truly bizarre.

  4. My favorite apple is a crisp Gala - speckled red. I also like a good apple crisp at any time, but especially for breakfast.

    Liz, another missing piece is hair - I am hair illiterate. My hair stylist has to cut mine so that all I have to do is wash it, dry it, and walk away, because that's literally all I can do. Totally maladroit: Give me a curling iron and I can burn the world.

  5. What a fascinating piece, Eve. I can only imagine your feelings on that plane as a child.

    My Uncle Jimmy Don had a piece missing, I think. Wholly different from every other member of his family, he spent a lifetime involved in violent crime. He didn't seem that different when you talked with him, but even as kids we sensed something was amiss--we were never quite at ease with him. I would notice him watching us as if we were exhibits in a zoo--interesting maybe, but foreign.

    As for me--no pieces missing, I assure you! As for the rest of you, well...

  6. Very nice piece. We of course look at the world through our own end of the telescope. In other words, if we see somebody acting in a particular way, we ascribe to them the motives that would cause us to act that way. I especially like the line in the Steinbeck quote: "To a criminal, honesty is foolish." If what's missing is a moral compass, then a man who acts with moral purpose is by definition a patsy.

  7. A very interesting piece. It is easy (perhaps particularly for writers) to portray the "monstrous" as being otherwise detached from the rest of us, separate from humanity. It is far more real (and frightening) to realize (and convey) the monster as one of us, a human certain in his or her own head that they are right. It is easy to portray Hitler superficially -- hard, I think, to portray him as a child playing stickball.

    On a lighter subject, I am color blind. I can't tell you how many times people have asked me "what color does blue look like to you?"

  8. A very thoughtful piece that made me realize I’ve never asked myself what piece of me might be missing.

  9. Eve, what an unusual and poignant childhood. The fact that you are "normal", whatever that means, is in itself miraculous.

    But then I don't think there is a "normal", just boundaries that society has established, and with luck most of us stay within them.

    My favorite apple was the one I got from a vending machine in Fort Lewis when I was shipping out to Japan. I believe it was a Washington Delicious. Whatever it was I can still taste it. Mmmmmm!

  10. A wonderful post, Eve.

    I particularly liked your apple example. I tend to express the same idea to folks by asking them to envision a house, then I ask them to describe what they pictured, followed by describing what I pictured.

    It's interesting to also note that I learned, early on, not to describe what I was seeing before they described their vision, or else they had a great tendency to claim their vision looked extremely similar to mine. If they describe their view first, however, it is nearly always very different from mine.

    Not sure precisely what causes this “vision change” if I describe first. The power of suggestion, perhaps? The desire to mask potential difference, maybe?


  11. The best apple in the world is a karmijn de sonneville. make a note of it. Great entry. some owf my missing pieces: sports, booze, classical music.

  12. Our best articles are when we write about something so personal it touches everyone– you, Fran, Elizabeth– you reach us inside. It's why we exist. Thank you, Eve.


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