tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post8192666253306202153..comments2024-03-28T15:01:21.285-04:00Comments on SleuthSayers: Sometimes The Big Sleep Comes Too Soon Leigh Lundinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07921276795499571578noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-17927616611235330612019-03-22T03:05:40.775-04:002019-03-22T03:05:40.775-04:00Thank you, Kaye. I appreciate your words. And I kn...Thank you, Kaye. I appreciate your words. And I know you've had your loss to deal with, so my thoughts are with you, too.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-37430050199676192562019-03-21T11:53:57.856-04:002019-03-21T11:53:57.856-04:00All I have to offer are the usual words, so very s...All I have to offer are the usual words, so very sorry for your losses. You're right, I think, that they are not gone as long as someone remembers them fondly. Not many get this level of eloquence, so you did good by them both.Kaye Georgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05596677617002735674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-4616265800710947282019-03-19T22:04:04.655-04:002019-03-19T22:04:04.655-04:00Thanks for your comment, Leigh. And I'm sorry ...Thanks for your comment, Leigh. And I'm sorry about your friend. Unfortunately,there's no way to predict such things so they do happen and opportunities to hook up do sometimes escape us. We just have to do the best we can.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-46306739342572417772019-03-19T21:52:03.513-04:002019-03-19T21:52:03.513-04:00Those are powerful memorials, Paul. You do well fo...Those are powerful memorials, Paul. You do well for your friends.<br /><br />I know that missed opportunity feeling. Not so long ago, I spoke with one of my closest high school friends, a droll guy with an off-the-ceiling IQ. We hadn't seen each other in decades and missed connecting three years ago, promising to meet when I'd return the following year. Before that happened, he died in his sleep.<br /><br />Evocative eulogy, Paul. Nicely done.Leigh Lundinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07921276795499571578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-55839124763472221682019-03-19T19:26:29.519-04:002019-03-19T19:26:29.519-04:00Thanks, Dianne. The thing is I think we always thi...Thanks, Dianne. The thing is I think we always think there will be more time so we put off reaching out sometimes for whatever reasons. And sometimes there just isn’t more time, unfortunately.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-70777417649338128232019-03-19T19:26:09.106-04:002019-03-19T19:26:09.106-04:00Thanks, O’Neil.Thanks, O’Neil.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-764681221349928032019-03-19T19:25:43.038-04:002019-03-19T19:25:43.038-04:00Thanks, A.E. You make a good point about how we af...Thanks, A.E. You make a good point about how we affect others or they affect us. It’s kind of like It’s a Wonderful Life. We often don’t realize the impact we have on others, good or bad. I’ve had some people come to me and tell me that I’ve had a good impact on them one way or another and it’s very touching and hopefully to be remembered that way. As you say, friendship is golden.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-8889646811513295332019-03-19T19:25:11.962-04:002019-03-19T19:25:11.962-04:00Thanks, Gayle. And I think you’re right. The good ...Thanks, Gayle. And I think you’re right. The good memories will definitely be what lasts.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-76060195340778794232019-03-19T19:24:51.917-04:002019-03-19T19:24:51.917-04:00Thanks, Larry. The hardest part about writing it, ...Thanks, Larry. The hardest part about writing it, besides the emotions and memories it brings up, is what to include or leave out, since there’s so much more for both of them.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-14396393931272401892019-03-19T19:24:33.749-04:002019-03-19T19:24:33.749-04:00Thanks, Barb.Thanks, Barb.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-44815303425465945832019-03-19T19:24:14.470-04:002019-03-19T19:24:14.470-04:00Thanks for your comment, Josh. I appreciate it.Thanks for your comment, Josh. I appreciate it.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-55341862367281643922019-03-19T19:23:35.517-04:002019-03-19T19:23:35.517-04:00Thanks, R.T. That’s an interesting thought, about ...Thanks, R.T. That’s an interesting thought, about how we’ll be remembered. I’m sure differently by different people. And some I wouldn’t care if I was well-remembered by to be honest.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-2605112427531630212019-03-19T19:22:37.794-04:002019-03-19T19:22:37.794-04:00Thank you, Eve. I’m sorry to hear that it keeps ha...Thank you, Eve. I’m sorry to hear that it keeps happening faster, as you say. I’m sure that’s something we’re all facing, unfortunately.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-81336975124951917102019-03-19T18:18:47.695-04:002019-03-19T18:18:47.695-04:00Wonderful tributes to your friends, Paul. I feel s...Wonderful tributes to your friends, Paul. I feel similarly about wishing I'd reached out one more time to a friend who passed too young. But we did share years of life-altering friendship. Being able to call someone "friend" is one of life's most treasured gifts. Condolences.Dianne Emleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09041482448705860140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-86976647535908120092019-03-19T17:01:45.312-04:002019-03-19T17:01:45.312-04:00Paul,
RT is right - "a fitting tribute"Paul,<br />RT is right - "a fitting tribute"O'Neil De Nouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03142721824657611738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-36559608708148899572019-03-19T13:13:13.114-04:002019-03-19T13:13:13.114-04:00Lovely tributes, both. As life moves on, we find t...Lovely tributes, both. As life moves on, we find these connections and it does rock us when we lose these people who have been touch points in our world. It's a reminder as well to how we equally affect others as much as they impact us. Friendship is golden. A.E. Wassermannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-58407574814553669502019-03-19T13:00:00.622-04:002019-03-19T13:00:00.622-04:00Paul, I'm glad you have such strong memories o...Paul, I'm glad you have such strong memories of your two friends. You might have some tears for a while, but the time will come when you can laugh over a few of those happy moments that will forever be in your heart. And it will be the good memories that last. God Bless them. GBPoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12190573764848658894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-4522681402861251102019-03-19T12:26:49.762-04:002019-03-19T12:26:49.762-04:00A very moving piece, Paul. It probably was tough t...A very moving piece, Paul. It probably was tough to write. Thanks for sharing it. Lawrence Maddoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03057386966178865691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-7363650816978339552019-03-19T12:20:30.340-04:002019-03-19T12:20:30.340-04:00Wise words, Paul. And I'm so sorry about your ...Wise words, Paul. And I'm so sorry about your friends.Barb Goffmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16013123434790272424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-83841669851701330622019-03-19T11:54:13.349-04:002019-03-19T11:54:13.349-04:00I’m so sorry to hear of these losses, Paul. I neve...I’m so sorry to hear of these losses, Paul. I never met Anne or Clyde, but through your loving words I feel like I’ve come to know them a bit, and I’m grateful to you for that. joshpachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12123432071405643210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-30972636229093792132019-03-19T10:36:17.683-04:002019-03-19T10:36:17.683-04:00Paul, a fitting tribute to both your friends. Make...Paul, a fitting tribute to both your friends. Makes the rest of us wonder how we will be remembered by our friends.R.T. Lawtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15523486296396710227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-82387964622737708782019-03-19T09:25:55.487-04:002019-03-19T09:25:55.487-04:00It's hard to lose good friends. And - at leas...It's hard to lose good friends. And - at least at Allan's age and my age - it not only keeps happening, but faster. Tributes help. Writing helps. But the sadness comes and goes, like waves on a beach.Eve Fisherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03015761600962360110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-67585512122146412092019-03-19T09:22:34.770-04:002019-03-19T09:22:34.770-04:00Thank you, Steve. We definitely need to make the m...Thank you, Steve. We definitely need to make the most of our time. Sometimes I think we do think it will go on forever, but things like this remind us that isn’t so. And I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, as well. I’m sure he would be honored to know you dedicated your book to him. Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-86324787983437606212019-03-19T09:22:10.094-04:002019-03-19T09:22:10.094-04:00Thanks, Art. And I look forward to corresponding a...Thanks, Art. And I look forward to corresponding again, that would be great. I've always enjoyed our contacts.Paul D. Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15466234708772287399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3119105822589181967.post-30498703886786817962019-03-19T08:59:58.940-04:002019-03-19T08:59:58.940-04:00A moving post, Paul.
I'm sorry to hear about ...A moving post, Paul.<br /><br />I'm sorry to hear about the loss of two friends, especially so close together. It brings home something we don't want to look at very often: our time is limited, so make the most of it.<br /><br />I recently lost a guitar-playing friend to cancer, too. He was two years younger than I am, and he was only diagnosed last summer. I dedicated my last novel to him, and none of us thought his condition was as serious as it turned out to be. <br /><br />Steve Liskowhttp://www.steveliskow.comnoreply@blogger.com